They always say that perseverance is a good thing. That if you want something bad enough you need perseverance to achieve that goal.

We set goals for ourselves of dreams that we want to achieve. Some people want to move up the ladder at work, while others set fitness goals or monetary goals.

Sometimes these goals or dreams are reasonable and attainable. But other times they just aren’t possible to achieve. We aim too high or expect too much from ourselves.

These goals become the focal points of our lives and nothing else seems to matter. We end up emotionally and physically unhappy just trying to fulfill these dreams. But is it really worth it?

So is it acceptable to keep fighting for these goals or should you throw in the towel and move on?

It’s the same with relationships and other problems also. At what point do we just decide that this isn’t working anymore and something needs to change?

Of course we don’t want to be seen as a failure. It can have negative affects on our emotional status and just make us feel terrible. But if trying to obtain our goal also makes us feel terrible, then is it really worth it?

Psychologists have studied the mental and physical health of people who never give up and those who quit.

The quitters were actually healthier than the non-quitters in every aspect. They suffered from less health issues and showed less psychological distress.

Apparently, the choice to quit comes from dejection. People who keep trying no matter what get depressed when they don’t make progress, while those who quit when things start to get rough actually enjoy more benefits.

So how do you know when it’s time to throw in the towel and move on?

If your need to fulfill this goal or solve a problem takes over all aspects of your life, then it’s time to move on. It could be the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thing you think about at night.

Meeting that goal should not be the main focal point in your life. You still need to carve out the appropriate amount of time to spend on family, friends, work or whatever else is important in your life.

Trying to achieve your goals should bring you joy and be fun, if it’s not, then you probably need to reconsider.

If you keep pushing to meet your goal but you never get close to it or it seems impossible to obtain, then it’s probably time to move on.

Your brain might be telling you that it’s just not going to happen, while your heart or spirit is saying another.

Take a step back and really think about if it’s obtainable and feasible. If not, then give up and move on!

If you start to doubt yourself and just feel really bad about yourself, then it’s time to give up.

Don’t second guess your self worth and your abilities. Chances are whatever you are trying to achieve isn’t really worth it.

If you are the only one trying to mend a relationship or showing interest, then it’s probably time to give up.

We all want to stay in touch with people or build new relationships, but if you are always the one initiating the conversation then maybe it’s time to stop putting so much effort into the relationship.

They say relationships are 50/50, but the truth is they are 100/100. Both people have to give 100 percent to make it work. If someone is only giving 50 percent while the other person is giving 100 percent, the relationship isn’t balanced and won’t work.

It is important to put time and effort into relationships that are important to you. You shouldn’t give up on someone after one fight. But at some point it’s also important to notice when things just aren’t working out anymore.

Don’t shut out your family and friends while trying to make a relationship work. If it doesn’t make you happy, then it’s not meant to be. Your family and most friends were there before the relationship and will probably still be there afterwards. Don’t push them away for someone else.

Remember that giving up on something is not failing. Sometimes we set goals for ourselves that are just too high and by leaving those goals to pursue other opportunities you are improving yourself, not failing. In the end you end up succeeding at a goal that is reachable.

“Knowing when to walk away is wisdom. Being able to is courage. Walking away with grace and your head held high is dignity.” Ritu Ghatourey.